Motivate- To bribe or not to bribe
Dr. Haim G. Ginott (2003) says in his book Between Parent and Child that there are seven self-defeating patterns that use to attempt to motivate their children. Along with bribes, he says: threats, promises, sarcasm, verbal overkill, sermon on lying and stealing, and rude teaching of politeness. These are all things that parents do commonly but should really steer clear of. For the purpose of this post, I am only going to be focusing more on bribes but for more information on these other self-defeating patterns, take a look at chapter 3 of his book. Many people know that there are two types of motivation. Intrinsic and extrinsic. We need a good balance of intrinsic and extrinsic motivation. Intrinsic motivation comes from inside (desire to grow or improve, help others, or feel accomplished). Extrinsic motivation comes from outside (rewards, praise, acknowledgements). Extrinsic motivation isn't bad but too much of it can be dama...
